Alert: I am not for gay marriage

For years I've been saying that members of minority groups I like (as opposed to minority groups I don't like, such as the ruling class) should identify with those groups. In practice that meant when voting they should prioritize issues pertaining to the group, and they should stand up for the issues in conversation too. Not doing so indicated self-loathing and denial. I've changed my mind.

Same sex marriage would be good for gay people. A lot of gay people would benefit financially from it, the symbolism would be nice, it would normalize gayness, it would have good ripple effects on other issues such as adoption. Nevertheless, I'm not standing up for it anymore and I'm not going to condemn politicians who blow it off.

Because I hate marriage! I don't care about couples' rights and that includes same sex couples. When I argue for gay marriage I am talking over my heart's true desire, which is outlawing monogamy.

(The rationale would be economic. When people pair off and make exclusive contracts with each other the free love market suffers. Plus the state has an interest in regulating contracts which have less than a one percent chance of being performed.)

I'm still with the gays in hating anti-gay people. If a politician goes out of his way to bash gay people, I won't vote for him. If a TV show stereotypes gay people, I will point it out to my friends. Job discrimination laws don't bother me, so I will like it when politicians support protecting gay people under them. Hate crime laws bother me a little bit, so I will make up my mind about that topic later.